DOD179: Just in it for the Money

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0:00:28 Tom: Welcome to Dear Old Dads, the podcast that's just doing it for the money. I'm Tom Curry. I'm joined, as always, by Thomas Smith and Eli Bosnick. Hello, gentlemen.

0:00:37 Thomas: Need to say your internal monologue out loud. That Can Just be Well,

0:00:40 Eli: I was going to say, guys,

0:00:40 Tom: I'm doing it all for the... All of it, Thomas Smith. Absolutely all of it.

0:00:44 Eli: If you won a majillion dollars tomorrow, which of your podcasts would you still do?

0:00:48 Tom: Yeah.

0:00:48 Thomas: This One I Think I would do, I would, would do all of them, but less. I think it would do, like, one a month, you know?

0:00:51 Tom: Would do all of them. I

0:00:59 Eli: Ooh,

0:01:00 Tom: Would love to just do podcasting. Would like to do all the podcasting stuff. I would just love that experience.

0:01:04 Thomas: Yeah. This loser still has a day job. I forgot. Oh boy.

0:01:07 Tom: Yeah.

0:01:07 Eli: Yeah. Slacking off with this leave, Tom, and you might just have that opportunity.

0:01:11 Thomas: Yeah. It's

0:01:12 Tom: Know. I Know, just, fucking, yeah, I would, I would do all of them. Like Do podcasting. I think it would be great. Like, I've talked to Hayley, like, if I won the lottery and I occasionally play. Do

0:01:13 Thomas: True. Just Do that. Yeah. Not I'm sorry, I'm going to burst your bubble.

0:01:26 Tom: You guys ever play lottery? Do You ever? I

0:01:28 Eli: Absolutely. Are you kidding?

0:01:29 Thomas: No.

0:01:29 Eli: Tom, we have bonded over this.

0:01:30 Thomas: Are you kidding me?

0:01:32 Eli: Here's the thing.

0:01:31 Tom: I play the lottery from time

0:01:32 Eli: The impossibility of me winning doesn't feel as bad as the microsecond of joy I get when I buy a lottery ticket. Because for just a second, I get to think of all the things that make me the most scared, the most worried, the more sad, the afraid for my loved ones. I get think of those things going away. And you know what doesn't do that for me? Numbers. Your

0:01:32 Thomas: Oh, God. Yeah.

0:01:33 Tom: To time, yeah.

0:02:04 Eli: Real-ass fucking numbers, they don't do shit for me. You know, you have more of a chance, do you know, of getting hit by lightning than you do of convincing me to take away my fun little thing. That's what you do now. I did have to cut myself off because I think it was like a couple months ago, maybe six, seven months ago, I played two weeks in a row and I was like, okay, this is is where it begins, right? I could feel it, right? It was that moment where you're at the cliff's edge and at the bottom of the cliff was me, like, yelling about the scratch-offs, I was not winning, at the guy at 7-Eleven, right? And so I was like, all right, and you gotta uninstall this because it was because they gave me an app for my phone. And so when I would play they'd be like, you lost, and I'd be like, fucking cool, I needed more of

0:02:15 Tom: For

0:02:17 Thomas: Yeah, boy.

0:02:52 Eli: These notifications on my phone, but then they'd He'd be like, hey, we're sorry you lost. Do you want 50% off your next ticket? And I was like, oh, New York lottery, New Jersey lottery. I do want that. And so I had to uninstall it. And I told myself I couldn't play again for a year.

0:02:54 Tom: A year

0:03:08 Eli: Yep.

0:03:08 Tom: Oh,

0:03:09 Thomas: Eli, you know, I have a similar feeling, but a little bit inverse where I'm like, man, nothing gives me as much of a good feeling as numbers. And so I'm I'm like, I fucking love numbers and the numbers say don't, don't fucking do it. And I'm, like, thanks, numbers. I, I miss when being good at you mattered. That's what,

0:03:18 Tom: You and your numbers

0:03:21 Eli: Yeah, how'd those numbers turn out for you? They didn't work out? It worked out? It's going well?

0:03:29 Tom: Yeah,

0:03:30 Thomas: Yeah, nothing, no, fucking, nope, not at all. It helps me not waste money on lottery tickets, but other than that, yeah.

0:03:36 Eli: I'm sure he's going to pass some law where you have to, everyone has to buy one lottery ticket starting tomorrow, and 8 million more people will vote pro on the fucking lottery ticket thing. Bernie Sanders, oh, you know, if only we had connected to people more, then they wouldn't have voted yes on lotteryticketsrus.com, and then everyone would be like, oh, are you giving up on the lottery now? Wow, how selfish of you. So you're just gonna sit there because all the lottery tickets are made out of the flesh of unborn children, and you're like, wait, what? They're making them out of flesh? Yeah, you have to read the New York Times all day every day.

Just click, just clickety click click click. If you don't click, it means you don't care. You're killing a child every time you don't click. Clickety-click clickety click click. And gentlemen, do you know what's worse than the clicking turning out to be the actual thing that drove the Master from Doctor Who insane? Why, it's the auto ads, sort of algorithmic conclusion in our podcasting experience, if you will. But if you would like the experience of having a human conversation, oh, so rare these days, you can head on over to patreon.com forward slash dear old dads, where for as little as a dollar, or one lottery ticket, you can support me and Tom's gambling habit, or at least you will be

0:03:47 Thomas: Yeah.

0:04:20 Tom: It's true.

0:04:53 Tom: Win

0:04:53 Eli: Able to in 2026 when I will allow myself to play again.

0:04:55 Thomas: And on, and if you support Tom's gambling habit and he's like, okay, the only way I'm gonna pay for my wife's health care is if I win big. And he loses then you are supporting the actions he takes after that, which may involve certain health care CEOs

0:05:02 Tom: The fucking lottery.

0:05:08 Eli: That's true it's a me, Tom McCurdy, you know what I'm saying. Yeah.

0:05:12 Thomas: Yeah so think So think about that when you're going to patreon.com/dearolddads.

0:05:14 Eli: Exactly patreon.com/dearolddads, as they say at the scratch-off center, rip into it or scratch into it. Go

0:05:27 Thomas: Right time you wanted to talk about your stupid stupid lottery habits though.

0:05:28 Tom: I was just you know I just, you know, like I, at that, buying a lottery ticket every once in a while for a dollar lets me, uh, lets me pretend that I don't have to do this forever, you know, like, like all of the, all of it you know

0:05:29 Eli: On, Tom do

0:05:34 Thomas: Yeah. Yeah,

0:05:39 Eli: The thing where you like wait until it's a big amount and you're like, alright, well, now it's worth it to play

0:05:45 Tom: No no

0:05:43 Thomas: That's the joke I always make. I love when people are like, well, 20 billion now, 30 billion. It's like the difference between fucking 20 and 30 is going to be, I don't get out of bed for less than 30 million, whatever. So funny.

0:05:45 Eli: Yeah

0:05:52 Tom: I just buy them randomly like yeah, right, I actually do the Thomas thing where I'm, I'm like, I smugly am like, I'm not buying a ticket when everybody else is buying a ticket, then my odds are even, and just like, okay, that's so, like, my odds were already infinitesimally small, like it's just I'm not gonna win the lottery, but like, you know, I like to buy a lottery ticket for you, like, what, a couple of dollars, it's like, it, it's not, it's not a lot of dough, you know, so

0:06:06 Thomas: Oh yeah. You gotta, to wait till exactly yeah

0:06:11 Eli: Yeah you're an outsider who

0:06:20 Thomas: That's how they get you but

0:06:23 Eli: Do you have a list in your head of, like, people who you're calling up and just being like, hey, just so you know, I'm giving you a million dollars? So oh

0:06:29 Tom: No I wouldn't tell anybody I won, like literally nobody at all. If I won the lottery, only one other person would know that I won a lottery. I would only tell, tell Haley. I, we would, we've already talked, like, I would never, I wouldn't tell the kids. I would know.

0:06:42 Eli: That's nuts yeah

0:06:42 Thomas: Man I was hoping, so hard the person was gonna be someone other than Haley, just because that'd be so interesting. There's only one person and it's Randy, and you're like who

0:06:47 Eli: Blue health blue

0:06:48 Tom: Yeah. And it's Remy.

0:06:51 Eli: Shield yeah Yeah.

0:06:52 Tom: No, yeah, no, if there's ever a windfall, like, No, there's not like nobody else knows about it.

0:06:57 Thomas: Well here's the thing, there's the lottery curse or whatever, but here's The Thing you have to consider the people who win the lottery are the people stupid enough, don't listen, both of you, the people stupid enough to buy lottery tickets are the only people ever. So it's not a guy like me or Heath, who's like, I like numbers, the warm, cozy, embrace of numbers. The numbers say, put this in a fucking ETF market, whatever.

0:06:57 Eli: Oh, I'm telling everybody.

0:07:00 Tom: Yeah, I've done a citation on that. Okay. It's me. Ouch. That hurts my heart right here, Thomas it's a dollar, it's like tipping at Starbucks, it's like, it's just

0:07:21 Eli: Yeah, yeah.

0:07:21 Thomas: I know. No, no. Here's I do Wanna say that decision makes complete sense. I actually get it because you could compare it. You know, this is, this this is a, this is, or yeah, I am just realizing in real time, some, there should actually be an article written on this. Like someone should write like, actually, it does kind of make sense to even though cold economics tells you there's no point in doing this. You're just, it's just a tax on people who don't understand numbers. That is also still true. But if you compare it as just entertainment, it's like, well, I could pay whatever $20 a month to stream Disney play, whatever, you know, like a bazillion dollars. We pay so much more for entertainment all the time. If this is providing you guys some form of like emotional feeling, some sort

0:07:31 Tom: Feelings I just that's

0:07:31 Eli: Voting. Can

0:08:05 Thomas: Of, yeah, then it's a completely rational decision. Here's my problem because I'm so devoted to numbers and rationality. I don't get that feeling. My feeling is I will not win. So there's no set. I I can'T can't, trick myself into thinking I would ever win. If I could, I'd be happier. I probably would buy a lottery ticket and

0:08:05 Tom: All it is yeah and that's why you're not going to win the lottery

0:08:23 Thomas: Why I'm never happy. Yeah.

0:08:23 Eli: Thomas, sit down next time you see like a mega man, right? You're pulling into the gas station. You see the little sign, just shoot Lydia text with the number and then sit down that night and plan out the money. Just plan out The Money because you have never been more more generous, more happy. You get to live because fantasy is the same as reality, except it ends.

0:08:37 Thomas: Hmm. Wow.

0:08:46 Eli: And so you get to just imagine all the phone calls you'd make, right? All the people you'd be like, Hey, just so you know, you don't ever have to work again in your life, right. The people you'll be able to help, all the charities. Oh, the charities that I would make do absolutely, absolutely bizarre shit. It would be, I mean, I, I've talked on the air about the Heath finger-biting thing, which is obviously a great idea. Have I not told you guys this?

0:08:50 Thomas: Geez. Yeah, what

0:09:13 Tom: No

0:09:11 Thomas: I don't think so

0:09:13 Tom: What are you talking about

0:09:14 Eli: This is fucking great. Maybe Noah cuts it. So if I ever win, like a bunch of money, right, I win a hundred billion trillion dollars, right, whatever it is, take out a full-page ad in the New York Times, and it's a picture of Heathen, right, and it says, if you can get this man to bite off one of your fingers, you get one million dollars. You can't force him to do it, you cannot make him do it, he can't trick him into doing it, but if he willingly bites off one of your fingers, you can have one million million because

0:09:15 Thomas: Probably so generous of you, yeah, you're just really generous of heart. I see why Noah edits this out. All

0:09:54 Eli: Then people would constantly be coming up to Heath and be like, hey man, my kid's actually pretty sick, um, and I don't type a lot, and it would really mean a lot to me. Like, he would have to do that for the rest of his life. Every interaction he'd have, he'd be waiting for the shoe to drop with the, will you bite off one of my fingers and the answer 10 times would be yes, right? He would be so, yeah, I would do all sorts of fun charity work like that. And here's the thing numbers is giving 10 million dollars, people in need. You have your charity, I have mine

0:10:09 Thomas: The time yeah oh my god that would ruin his life so It's a cool generous stuff. They needed it so bad, they got a guy to bite off their finger

0:10:34 Eli: I'm sorry am I not buying Keith expensive dinners with my charity money. I'm not taking him out to five-star restaurants my point is it's all meaningless, and I would, would like to have a lot of money while it's being oh I would give so many people money, it would change every, I've been making my estate. I'll tell you this, guys, this, and then we got to get into the topic of the show uh Been making my estate lately because it's important to have those things in order. Every single person I have spoken to in this process has asked me if I am planning on killing myself. My

0:10:41 Thomas: Oh man, oh boy then we gotta start recording, yeah, yeah

0:11:12 Tom: What? Really?

0:11:13 Thomas: I

0:11:13 Eli: Wife, my lawyer, my friend has, my single person

0:11:16 Thomas: Was about to ask you that, maybe I will just to complete this thing

0:11:20 Eli: Has has in some roundabout way been like, so what do you need this for? Everything okay? Yep.

0:11:26 Thomas: Yeah

0:11:29 Tom: Just because you're doing your estate planning?

0:11:31 Eli: Every single person has, and can I tell you why that is and I'm going to say something controversial, and you, there's going to be a lot of people who don't like what I have to say, but let me speak my truth. Let me speak my truth, open your hearts to me talking about my experience. I think it's because the people in my life know I should kill myself, and it's, and it's kind of like when someone who's in a bad relationship tells you like things aren't going well, and you have to be like, oh, what do you think's going to happen? That's how most of the people in my life feel about me being alive. Is there like oh, are you not going to be a, a podcaster anymore? No. Oh

0:11:35 Thomas: Yeah I get it

0:11:50 Tom: Oh, Jesus Christ.

0:12:04 Thomas: Oh my god oh

0:12:11 Eli: I would hate for you to stop dating you, you're but you're crushing it so hard with the Subway sandwiches in the dark and the basketball shorts. Oh, we sure would miss your, you know, we'd miss you. I think

0:12:15 Tom: Fuck.

0:12:17 Thomas: Shut up. Wait

0:12:28 Tom: Oh fuck off, get out of here with that

0:12:31 Eli: They all know it in their hearts. I think you all know it in her hurts. Speaking of money, Tom blame my thing, everyone has told me that they think I'm gonna kill myself every

0:12:38 Tom: Yeah

0:12:36 Thomas: Did you finish whatever that statement was, you're planning your thing was that it, oh that was okay I thought you're Either you're going to talk about who you're, I thought I just started doling out your your, uh, estate to people on air. I thought that's what you were going to do.

0:12:44 Eli: Single person

0:12:46 Tom: Christ. I just start getting nervous. I'm just nervous the whole time he's talking right now. Just nervous the whole time he's talking. Wait,

0:12:52 Eli: Can't

0:12:52 Thomas: Yeah. Yeah, Eli, you can't die before Tom, that doesn't make any sense. Tom's heart, Tom can and will. His heart is going to explode. Tom you.

0:13:03 Tom: What I'm

0:12:59 Eli: Die. Can't think about the things that have tried to kill Tom that's

0:13:06 Tom: Doing Great. God damn it.

0:13:08 Thomas: Can shock your balls awake for five years straight, sleeping three hours a night, and not die. Come on, come on, buddy.

0:13:12 Tom: I'm

0:13:14 Eli: Proof he can't di. If I woke up at the time Tom wokes up one time, I'd die instantly. They'd shake me awake, they'd be like Eli, you know that thing about waking up at 4 a.m. and I'd be, and I would just, I would remember that senator who Rogue turned into goo in X1.

0:13:22 Thomas: That'd be ashes. Yeah crumble to dust. Yeah.

0:13:32 Eli: That's what would happen to me if I tried to wake up, not even the electric just the time that I tried to wake up. Tom is immortal. Also, can I say the most fitting punishment for Tom is that Tom can't die.

0:13:32 Thomas: Yeah. Yeah. Is to remain alive. Yeah. Why

0:13:34 Tom: Tom is

0:13:44 Eli: Tom is immortal. I

0:13:44 Tom: Immortal. Uh,

0:13:45 Thomas: Does Tom deserve punishment? This isn't a mean thing. I be very sad when Tom's heart explodes next month, I will Be Very Sad.

0:13:46 Tom: Next

0:13:47 Eli: Don't know what he did, he knows. What he didn't, he hasn't gotten around to it yet. He

0:13:55 Thomas: I don't know, maybe two. I will see. Well,

0:13:54 Tom: Month? I've only got a month?

0:13:58 Eli: Drink water, and he's stronger than both of us. He can't die.

0:14:01 Thomas: That's, that's true.

0:14:02 Eli: When

0:14:02 Thomas: Those things are true, the last things not. I don't think that follows. I

0:14:07 Eli: Earth is absorbed by the Sun, Tom will be absorbed with it, screaming forever in his indestructible flesh suit, which burns away and creates itself in equal measure over and over and over again.

0:14:10 Thomas: Would

0:14:20 Eli: Screaming. Screaming.

0:14:20 Thomas: Just like to you to know that Eli

0:14:21 Eli: Screaming. And

0:14:14 Tom: This is not I

0:14:21 Thomas: Is the evil one here. Tom Tom. I am just noting, I'm just noting the reality of medical science, Tom.

0:14:22 Tom: Don't appreciate this

0:14:23 Eli: When he is pulled at last into the center of the the sun, he will look into the face of God and realize that it's been him the whole time. Sounds about right, doesn't it, Tom? Yeah, pretty fitting.

0:14:41 Tom: Oh Boy. Yeah.

0:14:39 Thomas: It does kind of, I mean, either that or it'll be Cecil's cats, but one of the two, look into the face of God and it'll Be one of Cecil cats. I'll be like, I knew it.

0:14:47 Tom: It'll be the cats. It'll be the Cat's. Yeah.

0:14:52 Thomas: I saw a thing that I found really fascinating as much as we are obviously hyper skeptics about about anything on Reddit, but it also doesn't matter. Cause it's like, sometimes it's, you know, it's interesting situations we want to talk through. This struck me as like pretty realistic. I actually think this is a real person and I thought it was fascinating. I would love to talk about it, but I would Love, I don't know, Tom to read it. Cause I don'T want to read.

0:15:13 Tom: Sure. This is a Reddit confessions: marrying for money sucks and I do not recommend it. Married a 40-year-old when I was 19, started dating when I was 17. Yes.

0:15:21 Thomas: Oof. Eek.

0:15:24 Tom: It was gross, but that's what happened. The only reason he married me is because I was hot. The only reasons I, I married him is because he had money. I I actually do have other redeeming characteristics, but he married me because I was hot. I know this. Everyone knows this. It doesn't feel great, but I can deal with it. We've been married for 20 years, four kids, so we're stable and we have lots in common at this point, and we do love each other, but if I could go back and slap myself, I would. What nobody tells you, or they try and you don't listen because you're a dumb ass teenager, is that marrying like this, this means you will fucking owe him for everything, every goddamn day, not just in the bedroom, but in every other matter in your life. The stuff you never imagined someone else trying to decide for you. And you don't just owe him the money.

It's a lot heavier than that. He'll never say it out loud, but you'll know the deal. Fundamentally unequal. He's a man of his word. He'll pull rank at the most random times and will make you feel like you're falling through the floor. I don't hate my life or anything.

I accept that I made this bet and I have to lie in it, but I wouldn't recommend it to anyone else. My oldest daughter is two years younger than I was when I met my husband, and I can't imagine. No

0:15:31 Eli: Because high school was hard.

0:15:45 Thomas: Poor kids.

0:16:32 Thomas: Doesn't that feel pretty real to you? That's such an intro. I've never, I've never heard this perspective of someone, because you think about, okay, you're hot at 19, so some 40-year-old, you know, marries you or whatever, but like, they could also still be a very smart, interesting person as well, and it just struck me that, like, oh yeah, what if that happens? What if you mature into an adult who's actually, you know, kind of cool and interesting and insightful, which strikes me as this person might very well be, and then you're like, wait, why, man, I married, married a 40-year-old when I was 19, but, but they're like, they're happy to have four kids, but then that knowledge is always there. I just found this so fucking fascinating. I'll be honest with you. Like, I was like, what a weird thing.

0:17:12 Eli: The pulling rank thing is a result of the age dynamic or her relationship dynamic, but like, I don't think that's built in, right?

0:17:17 Thomas: Age too. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

0:17:22 Eli: I don't t know about you guys, but I have never pulled rank. Maybe it's because I don't have the rank. But I don'. Some

0:17:22 Thomas: I had a similar thought, but, but imagine, I don't think the age thing is a big part of it, some you of you are were 40 on this, uh, Mike. So some of you, yeah, some of your almost 40, some of you.

0:17:35 Tom: I I was 40 uh, hey,

0:17:36 Eli: Of us are going to live forever. Some of use have 40 eons left to live.

0:17:41 Tom: Hey, hey.

0:17:42 Thomas: Some of you wish you were 40.

0:17:42 Tom: No.

0:17:43 Eli: Know, it's true, Tom. You know it's true. I

0:17:46 Thomas: Imagine that argument you have about a household thing with a 19 year old. Even if you'RE not trying to pull rank, you're gonna be like, okay, but that's fucking dumb, man. You're 19. Like what? You know what I mean? Like I can imagine there's a wealth of knowledge. It could be, it could be the the stupidest 40 year old and the smartest 19 year old, there's still just a wealth of life experience. It's like, all right, that's, that's you don't, you just don't know this thing yet. And could even not even be in like a trying to pull rank way. I guess I'm just saying like, I don't think it's built in, but I also think that it might just pretty much inevitably feel that way. Just cause that age gap is insane. You know, at that age and

0:17:57 Tom: Yeah.

0:18:18 Eli: Regularly losing arguments to a 4 year old. So I cannot relate.

0:18:23 Tom: Well, Well, like, I, I think if you look at the age gap in this one, met this guy when him, when she was 17, which means that, that means he was 38 years old. So the other thing you have to keep in mind is this guy is a piece of shit, right?

0:18:29 Eli: 17.

0:18:30 Thomas: He was my age. Oh my God. 38. Yeah,

0:18:39 Tom: Is no world, I just want to put this out there, there is no world where a 40 year old is interested in a 19 year old and that's okay, and there's no world were a 38 year old is interested in a 17 year old and that, that's okay. That means that guy sucks, right?

0:18:38 Eli: Sucks. And

0:18:41 Thomas: Yeah, 100%. Yeah, 38 -year -old and a 17 -year old. Yeah, that's fair. That's fair,

0:18:57 Tom: A hundred percent of the time that dude sucks. Literally no exceptions. I will allow for no exceptions to that rule. If you are a 40 year old guy and you look at a 19 year old, and you don't see a kid, something is broken in your brain that you should have repaired at the lobotomy store. That's it. Yes.

0:18:57 Thomas: Okay.

0:19:04 Eli: Oh, It's so bizarre, because now I teach kids that age, right? And, like, I remember teachers when I was in college dating their students, right? We had a teacher at NYU who would take his favorite student on a trip with him to Paris at the end of the year, right? And I was just like, sometimes older people want to fuck us, I guess, but I'm a grown-up, so I get it, right? And now I'm teaching people those age, and, like, genuinely, they're babies. Genuinely.

0:19:41 Eli: It is, it is like jerking off off to Boss Baby 2 is what I am feeling.

0:19:46 Thomas: Well, let's not...

0:19:47 Eli: Obviously, yeah. Use an example Thomas hasn't. Yeah.

0:19:50 Thomas: Hold, yeah. Please don't...

0:19:53 Eli: Boss Baby 1.

0:19:54 Thomas: Looks good in a suit, okay? It's

0:19:56 Tom: It's A I'm 46 and I have 18 year old kids, so like, it's, yeah, I know I fucking know I

0:19:59 Thomas: Jesus Christ. I thought... Maybe I need to change my timetables on your death. Hold on. You're overdue by a few months.

0:20:05 Tom: Know Uh

0:20:07 Eli: So many tens of thousands left, Tom. And when it all ends, when it All Ends at the Center of the Sun, you just wake up a baby again. It just starts all over.

0:20:08 Thomas: Ooh, a boss baby?

0:20:17 Eli: And for the first 60 minutes of your life, if you remember all the lives you've had before but then it all goes away and you start all over again.

0:20:17 Thomas: I'm gonna jerk off to that.

0:20:25 Tom: So I'm gonna need a minute before we record

0:20:25 Thomas: What did you do to Cecil's cat, Tom? What did your do to Cecil's cat? Uh, yeah.

0:20:32 Eli: All just a dream Tom is having.

0:20:34 Thomas: Yeah. That makes sense. Tom, can you dream better, please? Can you?

0:20:31 Tom: But wish I could. Are you

0:20:40 Thomas: Maybe you drank some fucking water, your dreams, which are our reality, would be nicer, okay?

0:20:40 Tom: Kidding me Uh, don't start all right stop we're not going down that road. They're

0:20:47 Eli: Do come true and

0:20:49 Thomas: Drink some water, have that, don't have as much caffeine, and all of a sudden, it's not Trump country anymore.

0:20:53 Eli: Maybe they won't give the robot dog a flamethrower. That's what I'm saying.

0:20:57 Tom: Giving nothing we do stops the robot dog from getting the goddamn flamethrower.

0:21:01 Thomas: Oh Fuck.

0:21:01 Tom: Every iteration I've run this simulation so many times and a goddamn dog always gets the flamethrower. Fuck, it's fucking it's all the flamethrower every time. Fuck.

0:21:01 Eli: Stop dreaming it into existence. Distance

0:21:02 Thomas: Yeah. Every future Yeah. Dr. strange they all 21 million futures, they're dog, he's

0:21:15 Eli: I'm picturing the scene from Endgame where Tom holds up the one finger, but then we just pan over and it's me being burned by a dog with a flamethrower. It's

0:21:25 Thomas: Like there. Yeah, it was still the dog flametrower, that was just the funniest one.

0:21:28 Eli: The funniest one, though. It's the one that all his friends agree should have happened. Oh

0:21:33 Thomas: Yeah, no, this is insane, but, but what a weird situation, because this strikes me as very self-aware by this girl, because again, you been fucking groomed at 17. Yeah.

0:21:42 Tom: She's a grown -up now, yeah.

0:21:43 Thomas: Exactly. But that's what's so fascinating because I think often as a society we look at that situation and we think, like, wow, that girl is also, like, I feel like society blames the girl too. You sometimes Sometimes it's Anna Nicole Smith marrying an 80-year-old or whatever it is. And I'm like, yeah, OK, they're both in on that. That's fine. I don't care, you know, but like not always. That's the rare situation. More often, it's the dude groomed a 17-year-old. And it's like to see her wake, self -aware or whatever. And post this very real post. It's like, you have four kids. You it strikes me so real, too, because it's Like, yeah, the marriage is happy enough or whatever, which I believe, like I'm sure it's happy enough, but, but always pulling, it's just like this horrified me to know it. What would you fucking do? What do you do?

0:21:43 Tom: Right. A thousand percent. Oh

0:21:54 Eli: Totally, yeah. Right. Yeah.

0:22:27 Eli: Well, so I've actually been talking about this. So, spoiler alert, one of my students is about to be in a Broadway show and I coached her on the audition, so Thank you. Thank you, yes. Yes. Brilliant.

0:22:37 Thomas: Wow. Wait, can you tell us what or

0:22:40 Eli: And Amazing. Uh, I can tell the play I can't tell the, I can't tell the actor yet. Uh, Proctor's the villain. Um, coming to Broad so

0:22:38 Tom: This

0:22:40 Thomas: No? Can you tell me and Lydia later? Okay. Don't know what that is, but it sounds awesome.

0:22:49 Eli: A play about this high high school class that reads The Crucible. Uh, two of the students sort of understand that John Proctor is the villain of The Crucible, and so in preparing her audition for this, we have sort of had to talk about the fact that John Proctor is the villain of the Crucible. It's

0:23:02 Tom: Pretty cool oh

0:22:54 Thomas: Oh, okay. I don't know that enough. I don't remember what that means. Sorry.

0:23:10 Eli: The witch one. It's the Arthur Miller play where the witch is so the perspective of the play The Cruicable. And Tom, you, yeah.

0:23:11 Thomas: No. I know that, but I don't remember the character John Proctor, I don't remember that, sorry.

0:23:19 Tom: Yeah.

0:23:19 Eli: Perspective of the play The Crucible is

0:23:19 Tom: God.

0:23:20 Thomas: Tom's read fucking everything he's seen, every future, he's an infinite, he was there

0:23:24 Tom: Damn.

0:23:24 Eli: Yeah, he wrote The Cruicable because he's Arthur Miller. He's Abigail. He's John Brechter.

0:23:27 Tom: It I lived through it it was, it was

0:23:29 Eli: He's all of them. Yeah, exactly.

0:23:29 Tom: Biographical Yeah. Right.

0:23:30 Eli: More weight, more weight, exactly. Yeah. And he's also all the stones, it's just everything.

0:23:30 Tom: Yeah.

0:23:32 Thomas: Oh my God, that is Tom. It is Tom. Isn'

0:23:36 Eli: It's all the things.

0:23:37 Thomas: T that Giles somebody, I don't know, yeah, that guy.

0:23:37 Eli: Yeah. Exactly, yeah. So the perspective of, uh that was your name back back then.

0:23:40 Tom: Cory Giles, yeah.

0:23:43 Thomas: Was your name back then. That's right. That

0:23:45 Eli: And on, on the, yeah, my daughter, sorry, sorry guys, um, the

0:23:46 Thomas: Was my name that was Corey Giles.

0:23:56 Thomas: Nothing has been, I'm so sorry, nothing has made more sense in our entire extended joke universe than that Tom is the soul of Cory Giles reincarnated. I've never heard a more, more weight, more ball shocking, more, less water. That's why he's afraid of water. The witches just got burned and he's like, no I don't know. Okay.

0:24:19 Tom: Much less water.

0:24:08 Eli: All of us, he's, He is all of use, we're all Tom reincarnating over and over and over again. Yeah. Exactly. It's I I think if he believes it, he wakes up and starts again though, so we should be careful. We shouldbecareful this is why I did all my estate planning. So, uh, perspective of The Crucible, I promise this is relevant to our topic is that Abigail, the girl who started the witch trials, is the villain, right? Had an affair with John John Proctor, and he ended the affair. And so she accuses his wife of witchcraft in order to, like, get him back. And then she gets caught up in it and a bunch of other girls. But like the perspective that Miller was writing from is very much that she is the villain, but he's 40 and she is, depending on the reading and depending on the version you're reading, 14.

0:24:28 Thomas: Please.

0:24:28 Tom: Okay. All right. Don't, let's not do that, please.

0:24:35 Thomas: Yeah.

0:25:08 Tom: Okay. There you go.

0:25:10 Eli: John Procter is the, the villain. He's the villain. And so I, to speak to this situation, right, like I think what this young person is grappling with in her own way, though she probably hasn't put that name to it, is like, I was preyed upon, nobody stopped that person from preying upon me. Um, now I live with the consequences of it, and one of those consequences is like not naming that for the, the predation it was, right? And I, I think that's like part of why you have to be able to, like, maybe that's part of why he is able to pull rank, right? Because like if he can't pull rank, well, then aren't we going to acknowledge the very nature of this relationship being predatory, right? Isn't that going to come up eventually?

0:25:38 Thomas: That's

0:25:38 Tom: Hundred percent.

0:25:55 Tom: Embedded in this conversation are some, some interesting truths about how we differently value men and differently value women. What makes men attractive and what makes women attractive. So like Yeah.

0:26:08 Thomas: How much they bench. Yeah. We know.

0:26:08 Eli: Yeah.

0:26:09 Tom: Like Like, what she's talking about, what the, the OP and this is talking about, is like, is very typical sort of, you tropey stuff, right? Like this guy was valuable because he had money, and like there's a million jokes, like you see, like, an ugly dude with a hot woman, right, and the joke is always like, oh my god, how much money does he have, right? Because like we know that one of the big things that is attractive, attractive for men in the world is money. Money is attractive. Money will buy you attraction,

0:26:09 Thomas: Well, There's nothing else about us that's attractive, Tom.

0:26:40 Tom: I know I've, dude, I've seen, I see the male form and I'm like, women are doing us a lot of favors. I'm

0:26:41 Thomas: I give us kind of a break. It's understandable, yeah.

0:26:46 Eli: You created it, Tom, so I don't know, do a better job next time when you wake up. Yeah.

0:26:48 Thomas: Take some accountability Yeah. As

0:26:48 Tom: I, I have a lot to be accountable for then. But I know, unfortunately like women are socially, sexually valued primarily for their looks. And if you compare the two, like are much safer being valued for money, which you can accumulate over time.

0:26:52 Eli: Right.

0:27:06 Thomas: Long As long as you don't buy too many lottery tickets, you could keep that money, dude.

0:27:10 Tom: It is a much, much better social position. It's a safer position. It's a position that has real longevity and it's a position that literally is power, right? Right. Because that's all money is. All money is is a stand in for different types of power versus women who socially are valued for being, in this case, hot. Right. Like when that's very typical. But if you're valued for just being physically attractive, one that fades like

0:27:37 Eli: It's like being valued for it being three in the afternoon. That's

0:27:39 Tom: Right. Yeah. It's such an incredibly dangerous position for only one of those two parties, because the party that has money has power. Or that's literally what money is, and the party that has beauty has something on offer that will fade, and that person with money, if they're saying that the real reason I'm with you is for this thing that will fade, why would they continue to be loyal? Why would they continue to support that person? And to like, this, these kinds of marriages, and I know, like, like there's a Marilyn Monroe quote, which is a pretty good quote, which is, like, you know, a man being rich is like a girl being pretty. You might not marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness, doesn't it help? And it's are in that place where the discrepancy between how and why we value men versus women is so patriarchal and it's so heavily skewed in favor of men, it's phenomenally dangerous. He

0:28:20 Thomas: Arthur Miller, what's the, what was the age gap there? Arthur

0:28:22 Eli: Right, yeah, well about how that power dynamic shifts over time, right? Because if you have a certain amount of attractiveness that equals, according to this value set, my amount of money, and if you lose that attractiveness over time and in all likelihood you gain more money, that power dynamic becomes even worse, right? Because the less attractive you become as you get older, the more money your spouse has, the less they value you while you still value them an equal will amount. Yeah.

0:29:12 Tom: I

0:29:12 Thomas: Thought we were gonna come full circle, but I guess the age gap wasn't like crazy. He was 40 and she was 30. That's like, yeah, all right, but That have been interesting if that whole thing came around, like he wrote the fucking thing and he was the villain of the whatever. I

0:29:20 Eli: Yeah. Can I, I mean, he's the villain, trust me, he's the villain for so many reasons. Here's my question, right, and, and look, I know there's the stereotypical, fucking, we've done whole bits about it, and if you want to date my daughter, I've got a shotgun and a shovel, and I mean, right, problematic, shitty, gross 17-year-old, 40-year-old comes to pick up your daughter, what the fuck are you doing? Or

0:29:50 Thomas: Thought you said four-year-old, sorry, 40 years, yeah. Yeah I I was like, are you making some weird abstract point?

0:29:52 Tom: Did too instead of 40 year old like I'd be like, hey all right good you know, yeah

0:29:57 Thomas: Yeah. Yeah.

0:29:54 Eli: Boss baby yeah we're Boss Baby

0:29:58 Thomas: Hey, Boss Baby's hot.

0:29:58 Eli: You have, you're in a boss baby city, yeah

0:29:59 Thomas: We all agree on this show that Boss Baby, we all check off to Boss Baby.

0:30:01 Tom: You know

0:30:00 Eli: Yeah yeah it's the official position of issues Daddy LLC, Boss Baby 2 is

0:30:04 Thomas: Yeah. That's why the name. That's what I'm saying. That's the way it is.

0:30:08 Eli: Hot yeah, of

0:30:08 Tom: Here's here's what's frightening about that, because Hayley and I have had that same, we've had this exact conversation, and my initial thing was like, oh, I would fucking stop that shit, you know. And, you know, maybe not, of course.

0:30:18 Eli: Course so

0:30:21 Thomas: He might be able to pay some insurance bills for you.

0:30:24 Tom: So here's why that's particularly problematic. And as a parent, I don't know what the right thing to do is, because like somebody who can say, hey, your parents don't understand you come live with me and they have the ability to swoop in and rehouse your kid. Kid and if you are, you being difficult, if you're standing in the way, if you're that guy who's like, hey, I'm taking my daughter and all that and like

0:30:53 Thomas: Oh, you might just encourage it is what you're saying.

0:30:55 Tom: Might just encourage it.

0:30:57 Thomas: How you react in that situation? Yeah. Fucking hostage situation. Situation. Yeah.

0:31:01 Tom: Yeah, it is because like if you play that hand too hard that other person can take your fucking kid from you. They just just can,

0:31:10 Eli: Me, let me say this, I think that in that situation you turn, you already fucked up as a parent, right? Right. But assuming you have it right, you just rolled and you got snake eyes and your 17-year-old wants some fucking boss baby dick. Right. Can turn and you can have a gentle, loving conversation with your kid, because I do believe that if you don't come from a place of love in those conversations, you are going to lose your kid. Regardless of whether they do what you say or not. Right. We have a ton of listeners who did what their parents said. And the minute their parents lost that power, they lost those kids because it was the only thing keeping them together. But here's who you don't have to have that gentle conversation with: the 40 year old right has a car and a house. No,

0:31:21 Thomas: A four -year-old dude yeah yeah that's fair but well but then he tells your kid that a different version of your conversation and you're right back there, you know what I mean, like okay

0:31:56 Eli: No no, I understand that. Let me say this, he's probably saying it through some kind of medical cause, right? Like the amount, the level of harm, I think I could say this legally because, cause it's a fantasy. The level of physical harm I would do to a 40-year-old here to marry my 17 year old is not like a, she doesn't find out about it level, right? It's like, uh, the cops come and there's a trial and I'll see you in two to three years.

0:32:10 Thomas: Yeah yeah it's like a cartoon where the cast for some reason and one of his legs is hanging in the sling with the cast on it. I'm

0:32:34 Tom: Yeah.

0:32:33 Eli: Yes, exactly. I mean, look, I'd probably give him a chance. I'd be like, Hey, I'm so sorry. Like you've made this this terrible mistake, I'm literally going to murder you.

0:32:41 Thomas: So sorry you made this terrible mistake. This is hurting me. No, it's hurting you more, but we're

0:32:46 Eli: Like, It's the bad place one time when Tom imagined you into this world. He made a mistake. He made him a mistake We're all just balls running down the triangle plinko board of Tom's imagination. And you landed

0:32:55 Thomas: All sinners. And he didn't drink enough water last night.

0:33:01 Tom: You know,

0:33:02 Eli: On Zero. You landed on Zero. And that's cool. But I also know that you can walk out of here and get into your Dodge and just drive off, get a Monster Energy and punch a wall and live a good, full life where I never eat any part of your anatomy. None of it. I don't eat any of your body. It's all stays out of my digestive system the whole time.

0:33:29 Tom: That's so fucking insane. I have no idea how to follow any of that up.

0:33:31 Thomas: No, that's fair. No, I think that's a good point. He brings up a good thing. That's a great point.

0:33:32 Eli: Just acknowledge

0:33:34 Tom: Know, the, the other thing that, that was a great point. That That was a great point.

0:33:35 Eli: That I made a great point, Tom, God. I'm

0:33:37 Thomas: It was. I feel like this situation can never happen. These people, they must not have parents in their lives. You know what I mean? Because a 40 -year -old -ass man Man, going to talk to parents that are probably that age. That's crazy.

0:33:38 Eli: You, you of

0:33:47 Tom: This is so common. It might not be as common where it's a 40 year old and a 19 year old, but it is super common that it's 17, 18 year old and a 28 year old and a 29 year old and a 30 year old, which is, I incredibly problematic and difficult as a parent, because, again, they have probably a house and a car and all those things that the 17 year old that you're trying to scare off or what, you know, like doesn't have, right. Right. Like you all of a sudden you are fighting up stream here against somebody that can literally just rehome and rehouse your kid. If things go south, you don't play your hand just right. But like one of the things that we we almost never like kind of go reverses on this. And I think it's really interesting and problematic, too, is that we don't talk about how fucked up it is for a guy to marry a woman just because she's hot. Right?

0:33:56 Thomas: That's Yeah. Right.

0:34:36 Eli: Course did

0:34:37 Tom: Talking about like, oh, he she's marrying him because she wants access to his money, well, like, yeah, money, a money is a place to live and money is but

0:34:45 Thomas: It makes more sense to do that than the other way, is almost more rational.

0:34:49 Tom: Way more rational, right? And it's way more understandable and it intensely less shallow. There is nothing more intensely, like, and misogynist than to marry somebody just because they're hot. But again, socially and, like, I'll, I may have relayed this story on the show, but I just think it's a really interesting kind of like microcosmic example, like when I was single and was Hayley was single, if if I had created, and I didn't have a dating profile and she didn't have a dating profile, but let's imagine that we had created a dating profile and then we swapped them when Hayley was single, she was uh when I met her she she was not yet divorced. Was just college.

0:34:50 Thomas: Yeah.

0:35:28 Thomas: Who introduced

0:35:29 Tom: So she wasn't, you introduced it. So she was not full -time employed.

0:35:29 Thomas: You guys?

0:35:32 Eli: Anyone declare dibs by any chance? I'm just wondering. Or are you a welcher? I

0:35:35 Tom: She wasn't full -etime employed. She was, uh, not yet divorce. She, she, she wasn, she didn't have a lot of money. Wasn't employed full -term. Uh, she had a couple of kids and she did not have a a lot of assets, right? Had no shortage of suitors. She had people banging her fucking door down, right.

0:35:52 Eli: Was gonna say, Tom, she didn't have a dating profile, but she did have a Facebook profile. Happens

0:35:56 Tom: Yeah. Like, yeah, literally like all she did was change her last name on Facebook and her fucking DMS blew up. Right. So I guarantee, I

0:36:01 Thomas: Oh, yeah.

0:36:05 Eli: To me all the time. I get it.

0:36:07 Tom: Guarantee that if I, as, as a, as a guy, if I said, "Hey, I'm Tom, I've got a couple of kids, I don't have any money," I would would be immediately unmarketable, immediately unmarkable. And we all know it, right? And none of those factors affected her social sexual marketability, right? They didn't affect it whatsoever. They were non-issues, because the things that we are valued for as men and women, broadly speaking, I don't want, I'm not talking about your specific relationships, broadly, broadly speaking, are informed by these, like, this cultural soup that says, like, the job of women is to be attractive and the job of men and what makes men attractive is the acquisition of power

0:36:19 Thomas: Is

0:36:47 Eli: Right right

0:36:53 Thomas: How

0:36:54 Tom: And wealth.

0:36:54 Thomas: Many pull-ups they can do? Yeah, 10.

0:36:56 Eli: And, and we disagree with these things, obviously. Right. I don't think that even needs to be said.

0:36:59 Tom: Yeah. But they're still socially true. Right.

0:37:01 Thomas: Pull-ups is pretty good. I don't know. Agreed.

0:37:03 Tom: And funny because you can also see it when you talk to guys and when you talked to women. And I think people will have of like anecdotal, be able to relate to this anecdotally. When women talk about a guy they meet, their friends will say stuff like, well, what does he do? Guys talk about a girl they meet, what did she look like? Almost never does anybody say, what is she do? We're not valued for the same things. But the things that we're valuing women for are these really ephemeral intentionally. So because I think it pushes them on a back on into a corner like these like like you things that are going to slip out of their grasp, beauty is fleeting, all of that stuff. But like how fucking awful are is a guy who's just like, yeah, I just married her for her beauty. That's worse than marrying for money. That's a thousand times worse than married for money.

0:37:04 Eli: Yeah, of course.

0:37:52 Thomas: My question to you folks is, do you say anything if you're this girl, if you've you've awoken into this self-awareness, do you eventually be like, hey, it's kind of weird what you did? Now they think about it, you know, like, fuck

0:38:04 Eli: Oh, God.

0:38:05 Tom: You Wait for him to die. Well, actually it depends on what state she's in. They've been married for what, 20 years? Yeah. I'll tell you what, here in Illinois that's prominent. That's maintenance That's The other thing here in Illinois, after 15 years if they divorce he pays her maintenance for life, alimony for life, so like she's actually got some position at that point financially

0:38:06 Thomas: Yeah. That's fair. Shouldn't take long? Oh, allowed to murder Yeah.

0:38:15 Eli: Right.

0:38:24 Thomas: Yeah.

0:38:26 Eli: Well, and that's that's what I think makes this so interesting. Right. And what makes it not a very clear, like, just get out moment. Right. Because she says they love each other. They have four kids and they love one another. They love each Other.

0:38:27 Tom: Right. Except for he's obviously obviously abusive because she's describing financial abuse

0:38:37 Eli: Right. I mean, yeah, she's describing a tremendous amount of abuse. Right. Right. But like she doesn't recognize that. Right. She hasn't woken up to that. And that's what I think is so interesting to this post. Right, because if she's woken up to dat, we're just like, hey, you men have heart attacks all the time and bleach poisoning looks a lot like a heart attack. Go for it, girl. We believe in you.

0:38:39 Tom: Yeah.

0:38:55 Eli: Maybe he was cleaning his gun. Yeah, exactly.

0:38:55 Thomas: There's one consistent message of this show Yeah. I

0:38:56 Tom: Maybe He was cleaning his gun. Well,

0:39:00 Eli: Exactly. All sorts of stuff. The, but point is, wait, when you haven't waken up to tat, when you've just woken u to a situation not being cash money, right, a really interesting question. Yeah.

0:39:17 Eli: Right, gentlemen, before we go, uh, a boomer joke this week is, Thomas, I upset you so much last week I thought I would give you a dad joke. Dad, didn't the deodorant want its daughter carrying a handbag because it was so anti-perspirant? You

0:39:22 Thomas: It was pretty upsetting.

0:39:24 Tom: That boomer joke. Oh, can we go back to the fucking boomer joe. I like the boomer jok. Thank you thank you And

0:39:40 Eli: Got it. Tom, you Got Got it, Tom. We're going to alternate. We are going to ALTERNATE.

0:39:37 Thomas: Oh, boy God. I Did, this was a ploy. This was was a ploy. He told the worst joke after to try to make the boomer joke look better by comparison. This was all

0:39:50 Tom: It was and It worked.

0:39:51 Eli: I just spilled a bunch of water.

0:39:51 Thomas: Oh, No, I think that I think the the bonus story should just be Eli dealing with this water spill that he just did. How are you gonna resolve it?

0:40:01 Eli: Okay, I spilled some water. It's okay. Oh, God, I love you.

0:40:05 Thomas: How are gonna resolve Let's see.

0:40:05 Eli: Yeah, I'm going to be okay. One second. Stop in there. Stop

0:40:08 Thomas: No, don't stop. We have a parenting story this

0:40:09 Tom: Don't, don't stop. There We have a We have a parenting story

0:40:12 Eli: All over my desk, gentlemen.

0:40:14 Tom: I guess we're just doing a parenting store. I think

0:40:15 Thomas: Is the new parenting story That's

0:40:21 Eli: Clean up this fucking water. I to because it's getting all over the place.

0:40:22 Tom: What?

0:40:23 Thomas: Fine. Just don't, just don's stop your recording. No I say don't start the record button. You have to turn off the the. I

0:40:34 Eli: Because I don't want it to get fucking covered in shit. What?

0:40:37 Thomas: Don't. Okay, sure. I don't know. Tom, your guess is as good as mine. I don't know. How does he think that it works? I don 't Yeah, this is, we're just just leave this whole thing, and this is the story this is the parenting story

0:40:43 Tom: Don't know this is this is the end of the show. That's it. That's all we need right there is just Eli literally talking into a microphone, worried that he has to turn the stop button so it doesn't short out his equipment. Yeah.

0:40:53 Thomas: Yeah, yeah.

0:41:02 Thomas: Because the water affects the Stop. If you, if

0:41:05 Tom: Right. You only short out electronic electronics when you have, when you're recording. Yeah.

0:41:06 Thomas: If it's recording if it's live

0:41:10 Tom: It's Yeah, right. Yeah. Other then the the electrons behave differently.

0:41:10 Thomas: If it' s just in standby mode monitoring everything It doesn't use electricity. Yeah.

0:41:16 Tom: Yeah. No.

0:41:17 Thomas: That's just a mechanical process, actually. Well, anyway, you guys.

0:41:25 Tom: See, this is why I don't drink water. I never spill my water. See, things I don't have to worry about is drinking fucking water and spilling that shit everywhere, everywhere, so I don't have to sweat it.

0:41:28 Thomas: Oh, yeah.

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0:42:21 Thomas: What did you do to Cecil's cat, Tom? What did your do to Cecil's cat?

0:42:25 Eli: You want to date my daughter? I've got a shotgun and a shovel, and I mean, right, problematic.

0:42:31 Thomas: You drank some fucking water, your dreams, which are our reality, would be nicer, okay?

0:42:37 Tom: Is broken in your brain that you should have repaired at the lobotomy store. That's